Over 10 years ago, my husband and I read Love and Respect, together.
We of course had a fight. As we read the book, we both were convicted over what we were reading and the emotions that were at the surface ignited.
It has had a profound impact on how we respond to each other...after the initial fire works, of course.
The book was and still is an excellent resource.
When my friend Rhonda Stoppe shared a little about her book, Moms Raising Sons to Be Men , in May of this year, I was struck by a comment. She brought up treating our boys with respect, the respect men desire. To treat them as men. It sounds simple, but this is a new stage in our lives with 14 and 15 yr old boys who are becoming men before my eyes. That wisdom is exactly what this new book is about.
This newer book from the ministry of the Eggerichs, brings the elements of love and respect not just in to the marriage relationship but into the whole family dynamic.
From the website:
Love and Respect:
"We believe love best motivates a woman and respect most powerfully motivates a man. Research reveals that during marital conflict a husband most often reacts when feeling disrespected and a wife reacts when feeling unloved. We asked 7,000 people this question: when you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved or disrespected? 83% of the men said "disrespected." 72% of the women said, "unloved." Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need differs during conflict, and this difference is as different as pink is from blue!"
What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.
Love and Respect in the Family (NEW BOOK)
The secret to parenting success is out!
Psychological studies affirm what the Bible has always said: children need the love that God tells us to give them (Titus 2:4). And parents desire the respect that Scripture plainly says is our due (Exodus 20:12). Love & Respect in the Family gives practical guidance to help break the Crazy Cycle of family conflict and replace it with a healthy, energizing rhythm.
Based on what the Bible says to parents on parenting, this book focuses on achieving healthy family dynamics. Dr. Eggerichs offers unprecedented transparency by including input from his wife and three adult children, who share wisdom gained from the good, the bad, and the ugly of their family life. It's all here in this eye-opening exploration of the biblical principles on parenting that can help make families function as God intended.
This book teaches you to:
See love and respect as basic family needs
Stop the Family Crazy Cycle of conflict
Parent in six biblical ways that energize your children
Discipline defiance and overlook childishness
Be the mature one since parenting is for adults only
Work as a team, according to the gender of the children
Become a loving parent in God's eyes, regardless of a child's response.